Why did I start GetDatingInsight.com and write Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing?
On my journey through womanhood I have experienced being single in Hollywood, having a career as a hair stylist, being in a marriage for over 15 years, giving birth to, and raising 2 boys and 1 girl, creating fine art and writing, teaching art, ending an incompatible marriage and then rediscovering single life as a single mother.
As I started to enter the dating scene after being in a long marriage of loyalty, I noticed an increase of men wanting sex without a relationship. I explored blind dates, dating sites, parties, clubs, restaurants, bars, hiking and museums. I would meet a man and hit it off and we would plan a first date. It would go great and then a second date would come around. The push for sex was so strong, I would say to myself, what happened to getting to know each other to see if we are compatible. I felt like I was expected to hop in to bed with him because he thought I was attractive, and he wanted me. He expected me to be happy since he wanted to be with me, and that I should accept the offer with no hesitation. If I didn’t, he would disappear.
What was this? What kind of man or connection was I continuously running up against. This type of man would act like he could not live without me, and then disappear if he could not have sex with me, instantly, or once he had me. I was just a conquest, or a new ice cream flavor to try. This type of man was not interested in knowing me, he just wanted to have the experience of having sex with me. The more I sat back and observed, I started to see a pattern unfold. I finally saw through the game, lies, and deception. Wow, it was all illusion and manipulation just to have sex. So I became curious about how this type of man operates. I would go out with them and secretly I was analyzing them. I saw how every word and touch was purposely intended to spark a sensation and stimulate my sexual energy, while at the same time working on making me feel like this connection was a once in a life time opportunity and it had to be acted on immediately.
I then experienced repetitive manipulation. They would repeat lines to me over and over again, in different ways to finally get me to agree with their outlook. I would hear well rehearsed stories, and sometimes they would forget that they already used them, and would go through the same story more than once, as if they were having an instant realization. I would see great acting jobs. These stories are what they use on all their targets. The same lines, the same script, nothing changes. It worked for them once, so they figure it will work for them again. And it does work for them. But once I became aware of how these men were manipulating, and how they would act if they felt they were being found out, or not getting their way, I was like superwoman with X-Ray eyes. The lies would stand out like flashing red lights. I noticed when I would catch one of these men in a lie, how they would turn the story around to blame something on me. Responsibility was never taken by them, and I would never hear an apology. This type of man is self serving and only cares about his desires. This is what I call a player.
Later, during my quest I met someone I would classify as a master player. A man who had it down to a science, he probably had enough skills to train a small army. He lived, breathed and walked the path of a player in all facets of his life. Players are very elusive in creating an illusion, misleading you with projected visions and false promises, and they ignore the truth. They delude circumstances to gain control over your thoughts, feelings and emotions. They take on different roles and give off a complete misconception of who they truly are, simply to hide their superficial ways. Players pull you in to a make believe world of lies and deception for their own personal satisfaction, disregarding your opinions and capturing your attention with forceful influence to attain a desired result. Once they have received all that they want from you, you are disposable to them, and yes, disposed of.
I must confess, I fell in love with a player. Of course I did not realize it at the time, but there were signs at nearly all stages of the relationship; from beginning to end. I chose to second guess myself, go against my intuition, and allow him to convince me that I was delusional. I even let my boundaries become crossed because I fell in love with the idea of what the relationship could have been, not what it actually had been. I did not look at his actions, I just listend to his words which manipulated me and allowed me to easily ignore the reality of what his actions actually were.
This is a harsh reality, but its real, and it happens every day to unsuspecting victims. Educate yourself about who you are with, ask many questions, look for patterns, and observe him and his friends. Listen to your intuition, keeping your eyes wide open, and look out for the Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing.
Victoria Levine has struck gold. She has found the key to finding perfect relationships, and defining the types of people that are detrimental to your happiness. This realization changed Victoria’s life, and it can change yours too!
Men and women of all ages will benefit by reading this book, as it explains and points out how people without integrity, who have hidden agendas, will go to any extreme to achieve their desired result. Not only will this book benefit you, it will also help protect your daughter’s & son’s hearts. This book will take you on a journey into the truth about deception. Guiding you to an awareness that helps you cut through and understand the patterns of manipulation in dating and in life.
Once an understanding is formed of what is out there in the world we then know what we are dealing with. When we realize how these different player personalities repeat the same patterns of manipulation, we are then better equipped to making wiser choices, clearing the path for authentic people to come into our lives. What ever we want is out there and this should be obtained through honesty. It is not glamorous to get played. Players hurt the hearts of many therefore action and knowledge must be acquired to be able to spot and avoid players. Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing is designed to do just that. http://getdatinginsight.com/wolf-in-sheeps-clothing/
I hope you enjoy my book Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing and gain a sense of awareness and a stronger self worth. I choose to touch hearts with inspiration, insight, wisdom, love and skills with a gentle and nonjudgmental approach. Be proud of who you are, be kind to one another and know that what you want is out there! No matter where you live, what you look like, why you want to date, who you want to be and how you want your connection to evolve, there is someone out there for everyone. The key is knowing what is out there and what you are dealing with.
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Much Love To All! Victoria Levine