Rebirth    

Time to be true to my heart;
Having the realization of needing to make a new start;
Honesty of a facade, a marriage falling apart;
Waking up and asking, “Whose life am I living?”
Is this where I want to spend my energy and continue giving?
Compassion for another always leads to forgiving.
Detours of thought always have a message;
Clearing a perspective, smoke rises from burning sage;
Words then created, I then journal another page;
This is not a dress rehearsal, I am not on stage;
Releasing the hurt of painful emotions;
I create a new path and put my dreams into motion;
As I pack;
I feel my real self coming back;
Placing my intention, as my mystery unravels;
I am aware of the path I must travel;
Moving with courage through life’s twists and turns;
This journey is an adventure, with so much to learn;
A renewal of my spirit has taken place;
The importance of how precious life truly is, has entered my heart space;
Life is very short, we must live it knowing our self worth;
To waste it on unhappiness is hell on earth;
Today is the day I welcome my rebirth.

Victoria Levine

Divorce is the death of a relationship, but the beginning of a brand new life.  Whether you wanted the divorce or your partner did, or you were cheated on or caught having an affair, the marriage was not compatible and you both need to move on.  An unhealthy or unbalanced relationship will only lead to resentment, frustration and unhappiness.  This transition will bring about a new meaning to your old relationship or marriage.  It may be a friendship, working relationship, co-parenting relationship or you both may drift apart, the choice is yours.  To end a marriage takes a lot of courage.  A person in this situation needs to realize how strong they are for going through this and choosing to let what is not working go and embrace what lies ahead.  A healthy relationship is about supporting and believing in each other.  Communicating intimately with kindness and love, growing together and sharing experiences.  We all deserve a compatible partner who understands our needs.  There are times when couples grow apart and their needs change.  Honesty spoken to yourself and to your partner about what you really want, will give you both the chance to make a decision to shift or to move on. Too much compromise is just being polite and this can lead to a passionless connection.  Happiness is the bottom line.

When children are involved, you may want to stay together just for the children.  Your children will observe the relationship that you both have and view it as what a relationship should consist of.  If you are in a loveless marriage, how will this effect your children’s view on the connection between a husband and wife?  Children will use the example you show them as a guide for their future relationships.  Children follow what you do, not what you say.

A new beginning is a time when you can start fresh making wiser choices with what you choose and desire to have in your life.  Life is what you make it.

By: Victoria Levine